October 28 and 29, 2012 Redux in 2016

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Oct. 29 ~ Civility is marked by humility, patience and candor. #civility

Oct. 28 ~ Civility offers the needed apology. #civility

I knew eventually I’d hit a day when it slipped past me to get a saying on civility posted before falling into an exhausted sleep, and that was yesterday! I’m sorry.

That means today is a double day! And civility does offer the needed apology. Incivility doesn’t apologize because the apology is so easily stopped by anger, pride and the desire to be “right” or to be “dominant.”

It’s that base of humility, patience and candor that allows civility to function. On such a solid footing one’s own mistakes are clearly seen, reflected on and owned. Owning mistakes and offering apologies unlocks new vistas of discourse.

October 14, 2012 Redux in 2016

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Oct. 14 ~ Civility accepts an apology. #civility 

Do we need to elaborate? Civility is always asking more of us than the easiest response in situations of disagreement or simple divergence on issues and topics of life. This is no different.

Civility will allow the other to apologize, and will do so with grace and courtesy. Accepting an apology is tough stuff, but that’s all the more reason to knuckle down and get it done! The tough choices are often the most needful.

At the end of the day, it’s a civil response to accept the other’s apology because the day will come soon enough when you need your own accepted!